Below is an article written by one of our clients, whose harmful gambling became a real threat to his marriage. We appreciate the courage it took to share his story and thank him for his contribution in helping us raise awareness of gambling harm.
No Second Chance
Over a period of about 10 years, I went from small time hobby gambler to an out-of-control heavy gambler. All my friends knew that I liked the horses, as did my wife. Everybody just accepted what I told them, as I spun out of control. That was because I come from a so-called middle-class family and was a successful businessman, with a University degree and diploma.
No one had any idea that I was out of control and was borrowing money from everyone I could; and because we have an exemplary credit record, everybody I asked lent us money. I couldn’t believe how easy it was and how easy it was to deceive people. Talking about this now, it is hard to believe that only a few short years ago, that was the life I was living.
It only ended when one day my wife asked me: “Was there anything you want to tell me?” and that was it, it was over. I was right at the top of the cliff just about to topple to the bottom, when she issued those auspicious words.
We no longer own a house, and still owe family and other lenders a lot of money. The light that almost disappeared at the end of the tunnel, today is happily now shining a lot brighter.
I freely admit that I couldn’t have got through it without the support of my wife and children, but also the counselling provided by PGF was critical to my recovery. At almost 60, I am now faced with working to at least 70 to repay my debts.
I have stolen from my wife what should be some of the best days of our lives, and I will have to live with that. I understand I will always be a gambling addict, but so far with everybody’s support I know I will be alright, as I also appreciate there is no second chance!
This story was written by a PGF Services client. We welcome contributions to our blog. If you would like to share your experience with gambling harm please email firstname.lastname@example.org.